How to be Great in BED (Code of Conduct)
Bondage Expo Denver was born from a love of rope, learning, and connection. Do some rope, learn some stuff, do some more rope, meet other people that like to do rope, exchange ideas about doing rope, so we can do more rope… That is our mission. In order to maximize the shared ropey fun space for everyone and minimize conflicts, we have a few tips on how you can help with the mission and be “Great in B.E.D.”
- Don’t be an asshole!!! Treat everyone with measured courtesy and respect, in words and actions, regardless of their lifestyle, how they design their relationships, what kinks they practice, and/or gender or sexual identity. Think what you like, but be respectful and mindful in your words and actions.
- Consent is the foundation of BDSM and is what separates what we do from abuse. Consent is informed/risk aware, voluntary, and given by someone with sufficient mental capacity to do so. Negotiate effectively. Never assume. Use your words.
- Make sure you have explicit permission or an invitation before you enter into anyone’s personal space bubble, touch them, or touch their things. Always ASK FIRST!!!
- No means no. No reason or justification required. Accept it and move on to the next person, they might say yes!
- Respect the privacy of everyone and the security of their personal, private information. This means that the sharing of someone’s personal, private information with others will not be tolerated. (NO outing!)
- It isn’t reasonable to assume that gender identity has anything to do with what side of the rope they prefer. Or that which side of the rope they happen to be on indicates how they may identify in other areas of their life (Top ≠ Dominant; bottom ≠ submissive). Assume that people tying like to tie, and people being tied like to be tied.
- Ask what pronouns people prefer to be addressed by. This can make all the difference in making people of all gender identities feel accepted and welcome.
How to handle issues
If you see something that is obviously asshole or predatory behavior, someone being harassed or bullied, someone being hateful or derogatory about another person’s identity/label/kink, speak up or notify a Staff Member. We are all responsible for creating an environment that supports our mission and is accepting of ALL the people.
House Safe Words: RED to stop a scene. MAYDAY if you are experiencing a consent violation and need help.
If you have any issues or see anything happening that you feel violates you or someone else, the rules of B.E.D., or the spirit of “being Great in B.E.D.”, please tell a staff member. As an organization, we feel it is our responsibility to do all we can to make B.E.D. an accepting, welcoming, and fun ropey experience for all. Please seek someone out if you need support, assistance, or have concerns.
Harassment, intolerance, disrespect, outing, and consent violations will not be tolerated. If you are not “Great in B.E.D.”, we will kick you out of it.